Two monks were returning home in the evening to their temple. It had been raining and the road was very muddy. They came to an intersection where a beautiful girl was standing, unable to cross the street because of the mud. Just in the moment, the first monk picked her up in his arms and carried her across. The monk then continued on their way. Later that night the second monk, unable to restrain himself any longer, said to the first, "How could you do that?! We monks should not even look at females, much less touch them. Especially young and the beautiful ones." "I left the girl there," the first monk said, "are you still carrying her?"


To be nobly wrong is more virtuous than to be meanly right. (Thomas Paine)



The Welsh language word trugaredd comes from the root word caru, meaning “to love.” But because it includes a sense of kindness and unfailing affection, it is often translated “mercy,” or “loving-kindness.” Self criticism brings with it the opposite of trugaredd: attitudes of self-denigration, and self-loathing. It undermines the motivation to be kind and the capacity to be available to others. The mindfulness approach invites people to explore a different way in which they relate to themselves and their world, with a quality of attention that has trugaredd about it.

The most satisfying connections are those when you completely see through other people, their emotional awareness and you share yours with their awareness. Some people are very skilled at this that they can detect another person’s unspoken pain, happiness, cues and then refer to it compassionately or properly. This must be your aim to foster better emotional communication by developing better listening and observation skills.

In our today’s society people feel lonely despite their closeness to many people in their lives, lovers, friends, family, spouses, and coworkers. Why? The answer is that the connection exists, but it is not at the level of shared awareness and emotional connection inside each other consciousness.

Scientist believe self disclosure or allowing others to see right into your awareness is the most profound solution to a genuine relatedness or connection. This is mainly done by sharing the most inner and most guarded feelings with others.


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Today’s Wisdom!

An old man, a boy & a donkey

were going to town.

The boy rode on the donkey & the old man walked.

As they went along they passed some people

who remarked “What a shame the old man

is walking and the boy is riding.”

The man and boy thought maybe the critics were right, so they changed positions.

Later they passed some people who

remarked “What a shame…. he makes that little boy walk.”

So they then decided they’d both walk!

Soon they passed some more people

who remarked “They’re really stupid to walk when they have a decent donkey to ride.”

So, they both rode the donkey.

Now they passed some people

who shamed them by saying “How awful to

put such a load on a poor donkey.”

The boy and man figured they were probably right,

so they decide to carry the donkey.

As they crossed the bridge,

they lost their grip on the animal

and he fell into the river and drowned.

The moral of the story?

If you try to please everyone,

you might as well…

Kiss your ass goodbye!

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