Two monks were returning home in the evening to their temple. It had been raining and the road was very muddy. They came to an intersection where a beautiful girl was standing, unable to cross the street because of the mud. Just in the moment, the first monk picked her up in his arms and carried her across. The monk then continued on their way. Later that night the second monk, unable to restrain himself any longer, said to the first, "How could you do that?! We monks should not even look at females, much less touch them. Especially young and the beautiful ones." "I left the girl there," the first monk said, "are you still carrying her?"
To be nobly wrong is more virtuous than to be meanly right. (Thomas Paine)
The Welsh language word trugaredd comes from the root word caru, meaning “to love.” But because it includes a sense of kindness and unfailing affection, it is often translated “mercy,” or “loving-kindness.” Self criticism brings with it the opposite of trugaredd: attitudes of self-denigration, and self-loathing. It undermines the motivation to be kind and the capacity to be available to others. The mindfulness approach invites people to explore a different way in which they relate to themselves and their world, with a quality of attention that has trugaredd about it.
The most satisfying connections are those when you completely see through other people, their emotional awareness and you share yours with their awareness. Some people are very skilled at this that they can detect another person’s unspoken pain, happiness, cues and then refer to it compassionately or properly. This must be your aim to foster better emotional communication by developing better listening and observation skills.
In our today’s society people feel lonely despite their closeness to many people in their lives, lovers, friends, family, spouses, and coworkers. Why? The answer is that the connection exists, but it is not at the level of shared awareness and emotional connection inside each other consciousness.
Scientist believe self disclosure or allowing others to see right into your awareness is the most profound solution to a genuine relatedness or connection. This is mainly done by sharing the most inner and most guarded feelings with others.
Ben B. Boothe:
A lecturer when explaining stress management to an audience,
Raised a glass of water and asked ‘How heavy is this glass of water?’
Answers called out ranged from 20g to 500g. The lecturer replied, ‘The absolute weight doesn’t matter.
It depends on how long you try to hold it. If I hold it for a minute, that’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you’ll have to call an ambulance. In each case, it’s the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes. ‘He continued, ‘And that’s the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, As the burden becomes increasingly heavy, We won’t be able to carry on. ”As with the glass of water, You have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we’re refreshed, we can carry on with the burden.’
‘So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don’t carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you’re carrying now, Let them down for a moment if you can.’ So, my friend, Put down anything that may be a burden to you right now. Don’t pick it up again until after you’ve rested a while.
Here are some great ways of dealing with the burdens of life:
* Accept that some days you’re the pigeon, And some days you’re the statue.
* Always keep your words soft and sweet, Just in case you have to eat them.
* Always wear stuff that will make you look good If you die in the middle of it.
* Drive carefully. It’s not only cars that can be Recalled by their maker.
* If you can’t be kind, at least have the decency to be vague.
* If you lend someone $20 & never see that person again, It was probably worth it.
* It may be that your sole purpose in life is simply to be kind to others.
* Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, Because then you won’t have a leg to stand on.
* Nobody cares if you can’t dance well. Just get up and dance.
* Since it’s the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.
* The second mouse gets the cheese.
* When everything’s coming your way, You’re in the wrong lane.
* Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.
* You may be only one person in the world, But you may also be the world to one (or quite a few) person(s).
* We could learn a lot from crayons.. Some are sharp, some are pretty and some are dull. Some have weird names, and all are different colors, but they all have to live in the same box.
*A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.
Ben B. Boothe, Publisher, Global Perspectives, http://www.bootheglobalperpectives.com